Reliving Memories: A Journey Through Loss and Love

  Dear BigMan, 

Today, I had to relive it all. I had multiple conversations about you, and even a memory popped up on Messenger—a picture I sent you of your niece, Yava’ah. Seeing that memory led me down a path, going through our messages. I found one from December 2022, the day you had a heart attack. I told you then how grateful I was that you were okay, because I couldn’t imagine life without you.

Now, here I am, almost two years later from that message and nearly two months since you passed, trying to figure out life without you. I know it’s going to be a long road ahead. If I can say anything, it’s that I feel alone. Only we truly understood our struggle, and now I feel like an army of one. But I know you’re watching over me.

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